Baik and Solehah

Kakak and me, we do lots of talking at night (the start of a life-long talking).

Sirah Nabi

I have started with stories of Nabi, starting with the story of Nabi Musa, which started something like this:

Pada zaman dahulu, ada seorang raja yang saangat jahat. Nama dia Firaun. Dia ni kaya, banyak duit, tapi dia jahat. Dia kata dia lah raja, dan semua orang kena sembah dia, tak boleh sembah Allah. (Kita kan kena sembah Allah, solat untuk Allah, buat baik untuk Allah, kan? Bukan sembah orang kan? I ask her, to which she nod and say, hmm) Pada satu malam, Firaun ni mimpi, ada seorang baby datang kat dia, pastu baby ni jadi orang besar, pastu baby yang dah besar ni datang kat dia, dan kata, Awak bukan Tuhan, Tuhan tu Allah, kita kena sembah Allah! Dan nak ambil semua harta dia dan nak bunuh dia. Bila Firaun terjaga dia pun takut dan fikir, Siapa baby yang nak datang marah aku ni? Firaun tak tahu baby tu siapa, jadi Firaun pun panggil askar-askar dia dan kata, Askar, pergi masuk kat kampung-kampung dan tunggu.. kalau ada baby lahir je, ada bunyi waaa waaa pergi kat baby tu, dan bunuh dia!" 

and on and on sampailah part Nabi Musa duduk dengan Firaun dan Permaisuri Asiah, dan episod Nabi Musa tarik janggut Firaun.

Another story which we can tell is the long story of Nabi Yusuf. I heard on IKIM that its the most complete story of any Nabi in the Quran. Sejak dari kecil sampai dia besar, and 70 or 80% of the content is in the form of dialogue Allah made for us, to make the story interesting, and there is so much Ibrah we can learn from this story. I have to do some reading to tell this story in the most interesting way.

Bought this at MPH, lengthy stories of almost all 25 rasul

Now beside Kakak's usual request of Ummi, ceritalah fatimah, she would everyday say, Ummi ceritalah nabi baby tu.

Hmm, why do we feel the need to fill in our children with stories like Disney princess and folk tales and bedtime stories so much when Allah has given us the greatest story book, if only we take a little effort..

Akidah

We also love to tell her about syurga and neraka. Last night while spinning the usual tale of keindahan syurga, where whatever she wants will be fulfilled immediately, like - kalau kakak rasa nak makan choki choki kakak kata je, rasa nak makan choki-choki lah, TINGG choki-choki terus depan kakak. She would grin and straight away ask in glee, "Takyah gosok gigi pun ke?" -__-

There will be birds, and sungai fill with susu, and sejuk je macam dalam aircond all the time.

And after all that I'd say, "Best kan syurga, kakak?" and she would do that cute giddy over excited grin for the longest of time (makes me so guilty, I would give anything to ensure you syurga, sayang) and she'd put her face close to mine, and say, "Nak masuk syurga.."

and I'd say, "Tapi.. bukan senang nak masuk syurga tau kakak"

Allah yang akan pilih siapa masuk syurga, siapa tak boleh masuk syurga, pergi neraka api panas tu.

Allah akan letak semua orang kat satu tempat, pastu Allah kata,

Awak.. boleh masuk syurga.. Awak.. takboleh masuk syurga.."

She actually cried and say "Kakak nak masuk syurgaa..."

Kakak nak tahu macam mana Allah pilih?

Allah kata dalam Quran, yang Ummi baca tu, Allah kata..

"Awak.. solehah.. boleh masuk syurga. Awak.. tak solehah.. tak boleh masuk syurga,"

Immediately she smile and say proudly, "Kakak solehah..!!"

"Memang kakak solehah. Sebab tu kakak kena dengar Ummi Abi kata, ikut semua yang Allah suruh, rajin solat, rajin baca alif ba ta.."

A friend, dibesarkan penuh tarbiyah dalam bi'ah solehah said, masa kecil, Ummi Abi dia tak guna perkataan, kena jadi baik.. but instead use the word solehah. Because being baik and solehah is different.

Baik means baik tolong orang, baik tak marah-marah, baik jaga adik.

It doesn't cover.. jangan ambil barang orang bila orang tak nampak, mengelat tak buat kerja betul-betul bila Ummi tak nampak, rajin solat, rajin mengaji untuk pahala.

Baik is explainable, ini baik sebab apa. Ini tak baik sebab apa. People give value to baik. Baik bila orang tengok.

But solehah does not have to be explainable. Solehah is doing something because Allah likes it, and dapat pahala, dapat syurga. As simple as that. Solehah is restraining ourself from not doing something because Allah does not like it, Allah marah. Not because ada orang nampak.

It makes sense to so many things children need to understand in the future.

So whenever our child do something, lets guide it by asking gently, "soleh ke tak soleh, buat macam ni?"

Being soleh is fitrah. 

Start early, they'll understand.

"Ya Allah, ampunkanlah kami atas segala kejahilan dan kekhilafan kami..."